When first considering a female-led relationship, many women have a common concern – will I have to become someone else? The idea of taking charge as the leader in the relationship can seem to imply adopting a whole new persona.
In fact, it can mean less.
While new responsibilities are taken on, core identity remains intact.
In this article, we’ll explore why women do not have to lose themselves when stepping into leadership in a female-led relationship.
Taking control of the dynamic can be done authentically, by revealing inner strengths, not creating a false self.
Common worries will be addressed, with advice provided to help women transition smoothly to authority in a way that feels genuine.
The goal is to reassure that power can be assumed on your own terms, without having to radically re-invent who you are.
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You Don’t Have to Change Your Core Personality with an FLR
So you’re thinking about venturing into a female-led relationship, but worried you’ll have to do a complete personality overhaul?
Having spoken to many female leaders, I’m here to tell you – that’s just not the case!
The fact is, at your core, you’ll still be your wonderful, quirky, one-of-a-kind self.
An FLR isn’t about getting a personality transplant – it’s about giving your existing personality more power and room to thrive!
Let’s say you’ve always been laidback and easygoing, preferring to just go with the flow.
Great news – embracing leadership doesn’t suddenly turn you into an aggressive alpha dictator! You can use your chill vibe to steer the ship in a calm, drama-free way.
Or maybe creativity and self-expression are your jam.
An FLR gives you the reins to infuse more of that artsy flair into your partnership! But it doesn’t mean betraying your creative gifts for rigid authoritarianism.
Not at all, girl!
Here’s the key – identify your core strengths and leverage them as you lead. Give that wonderful you more authority, rather than distorting your personality.
Growing into leadership isn’t about tearing down the old you, but building on top of existing foundations.
Bring all the greatness you already have to the table!
Pretty awesome, right?
Adopting New Behaviors Doesn’t Mean Pretending
It’s only natural that taking charge in an FLR will involve some new behaviors – after all, you’ll have increased responsibilities!
Leading the relationship means making more decisions, being more assertive about your needs, taking action to get things done your way.
But here’s an important reminder: just because you act differently in some ways, doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be someone totally different!
For example, you may take over handling finances or being the disciplinarian. But you can do these things authentically, based on your values!
No need to mimic someone else – rely on your own wisdom.
But it shouldn’t feel like forced faking! View it as flexing self-assuredness you already possess inside. We all have hidden depths to draw from.
The point is, don’t worry that an FLR means putting on an elaborate act.
While your partner sees new behaviors, the real you remains underneath.
Growth in specific actions doesn’t equal betraying your core being.
You’re still the same person, just with developed psychological muscles!
Learn to Embrace Your Inner Strengths with an FLR
Here’s an awesome thing about female-led relationships – they can reveal strengths you never knew you had!
Rather than inventing a new you, an FLR unearths the kickass woman already inside.
You’ll likely uncover confidence, courage, and talents you didn’t know existed. An FLR is the perfect chance to unleash your inner rockstar.
For those just starting out, be patient with yourself as you grow into leadership.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, after all! Begin taking charge in areas that feel natural. Then slowly expand your comfort zone.
Ask your partner for encouragement along the way.
A supportive submissive will be eager to nurture your developing authority. Lean on him, communicate your needs.
Over time, you’ll be amazed at the boldness and decisiveness that emerge.
You already have these commanding qualities – an FLR helps integrate them into your identity.
The key is to let leadership reveal the badass that’s been inside you all along.
Don’t force it, just give that inner heroine space to shine.
Trust me, you’ve got this!
An FLR is the perfect chance to unleash strengths you never knew were there. Get ready to embrace your inner rockstar!
So there you have it, ladies – don’t let worries about “becoming someone else” stop you from rocking an FLR!
Sure, you’ll adopt new behaviors as a leader, but your core identity stays intact. An FLR simply lets your inner star shine through!
The goal isn’t a personality overhaul, but gradually blossoming as you take charge. Unlock those gifts at your own pace, girl!
With a supportive partner, make leadership a comfortable stretch rather than a strain. You already have such strength in you – it’s just about letting it out!
My advice? Take the reins boldly but also trust that the real you has this handled. Thriving as a leader isn’t about acting, but making yourself more expressive.
All with the same personality.
Your partner sees the REAL you.
An FLR doesn’t change who you are. It reveals who you are meant to be – a total boss babe! (touch of humor there).
Trying to talk to your partner about the benefits of a female led relationship can be hard. Use this open letter to help or to prompt constructive dialogue.