A Deceptively Simple Sexual Dominance Trick For New Dommes

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When entering into the world of gentle femdom a female can reject the premise on the basis of some false presumptions. 

Along with whips and chains comes the idea of sexual dominance on a permanent basis.

This isn’t the case, but the general idea of having to dominate sexual encounters sounds like a step many women are unwilling to make.

But what if there was another answer.

What if there was a really simple act of sexual dominance that was both easy to perform, yet contained all the hallmarks of classical dominance.

Sounds too good to be true right?

a mistress kisses her submissive

Easy to accomplish and will display natural dominance all in one simple act.

Well, read on.

The Art Of Simple Sexual Dominance For New Dommes

It hardly needs to be said that within a partnership of equals the act of sex will be a sharing of physical pleasure for both parties.

Female sexual dominance isn’t about acting the part of the male only.

It can be, such as with pegging, or taking control of the sex with orders or actions.

However, there is a simple dominance that can often go overlooked by a female wanting to try dominance.

It might be best described as ‘selfish sex’

That is to say the art of sex now becomes much less a mutual exchange and more of a method to pleasure the female.

A new mistress could order a bout of pleasurable oral sex, but with a few toys, a new mistress can have penetrative sex to orgasm without any physical pleasure for the male.

a mistress stands above her submissive

In fact, he is specifically denied it.

All a new mistress will need is a penis cage and a penis extender with a strapon harness

I would call it the penis extender trick

What Is The Penis Extender Trick

In mechanical terms it’s the art of chastising the male while providing penetrative sexual opportunity to the mistress.

Ideally this is done with a naked submissive.

The mistress should place her submissive’s penis into a cage. Denial of an erection is pretty submissive in and of itself.

The submissive then should place both a strapon harness and a dildo onto the male. Preferences aside it can also be a penis extender, or any other design that simulates a real penis.

The penis should be a stiff replica designed for proper use.

The submissive then lies down on the bed, on his back with the erect dildo pointing upwards.

a mistress takes an extender

Although the submissive can be restrained it’s entirely up to the domme, but the mistress can now straddle the submissive in the cowgirl position.

She can now engage in full penetrative sex using the submissive without any stimulation for the male.

She can ride herself to orgasm until she is thoroughly exhausted.

Why The Penis Extender Trick Works – Submissive Psychology

The act of using the penis extender trick works for a number of reasons.

Not only in terms of sexual enjoyment for the domme but the simple psychology of the submissive man.

Let’s run through it.

Female orgasm centric – The whole use of this trick will be to focus the act of sex towards the purpose of giving the female an orgasm. The domme is silently taking control to reward herself with sexual pleasure.

a mistress receiving pleasure

Male denial – It emphasises that the male orgasm isn’t as important as the females. The male is in chastity during the process so he is forbidden from orgasming.

Selfish overtones – The act is undeniably selfish, but the male will willingly comply with every request. He will be happy that his mistress is finding pleasure by using him as a tool.

The act of being selfish and unapologetically so transmits the notion that the pleasure of the mistress is of higher priority than the submissives.

Penis bypass – The trick directly bypasses the male penis and puts away the notion that it is needed. The primary sexual organ of the male is relegated in the act.

Why It’s Good For New Dommes

New dommes struggling with how exactly to show dominance in almost any area can feel quite self conscious.

Adding into the mix the thought of trying to attain a dominant sexual advantage and display prowess can often take a woman down the same road of thoughts.

a mistress teasing her submissive

The beauty of the penis extender trick is that it’s quite simple to do, and all the hidden forces of sexual dominance work silently in her favor.

Just the act alone, even if conducted silently has the effect of making the man feel submissive.

The whole trick is self evidently dominant.The domme does not have to be belittling, abusive, or try things to humiliate her man, as the act itself does that for her. All he has to do is comply.

A new domme can issue a few simple instructions, let the man prepare himself for her, ride him to orgasm, and then get off and go about her day. She has had an orgasm, he has just been a tool for her pleasure.

It also doesn’t require extensive planning and preparation, or moving into a different headspace is the very reason it works well for new dommes.

A new domme can enjoy the sex, then make him go and make her a drink while she relaxes afterwards.

a mistress teasing her submissive

Tips For Trying The Penis Extender Trick

Although it’s a deceptively simple trick to enhance sexual submission, it’s also worth thinking about how to make the whole act work better.

A cage and foreplay – Why not extend the torment a little for him. The submissive can be caged up, put on some simple clothes and spend an hour at least giving his mistress a very relaxing oil massage.

CFNM – For those not in the know, CFNM stands for Clothed Female and Naked Male. That’s a naturally dominant position right there. Being naked when someone else has the authority to remain clothed is naturally a power dynamic.

The male can be naked while the female could potentially have sex while remaining partially clothed.

The submissive is a tool – The act effectively delegitimizes the males role in the act of the domme having an orgasm. It’s useful to think of him this way during the act of sex, and keep the emotional exchanges away.

It has a decidedly submissive tone to it when you try it.

a mistresses look at her submissive

So the domme shouldn’t compliment him or encourage him during the act of penetration. It helps feed into the narrative.

The silent male – By telling the submissive to keep quiet a new domme can get lost in her own thoughts and throws of passion. Knowing the male has no sexual gratification again gives a power dynamic all of its own.

Selfish pleasure – The mistress should not give the impression that utilizing the penis extender trick is anything other than her own gratification. She could even try keeping him waiting on the bed while she has a bath if necessary.

The male becomes a simple concubine. She could even excite herself first before riding the penis extender to orgasm.

a mistress on top of her sub

She shouldn’t return the favor, accept male requests, nor offer to make her male submissive orgasm.

After the domme has orgasmed, then his usefulness drops to zero. The mistress can quite comfortable be a teensy weensy bit of a bitch and it works wonders for cementing the female authority.

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