Is Obedience Training Useful in a Female Led Relationship

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In recent times, there has been a growing interest in Female Led Relationships (FLRs).

These types of relationships involve the woman taking the lead role, while the man voluntarily submits to her authority. While it’s often recommended that obedience training is necessary for FLRs to work, the question arises – is obedience training truly useful in such a relationship?

Some people argue that it’s only beneficial for the submissive partner, while others believe that it can benefit both partners.

In this article, we’ll take a closer look at the role of obedience training in FLRs and explore its usefulness for both partners involved.

a female dominant gives an obedience command

What is the Point of Obedience Training?

Obedience training is an aspect of an FLR, which involves training the male partner to obey the commands of their female partner without question.

The goal is to establish a dynamic in which the female partner can assert her dominance and authority over the relationship.

The male partner is trained to follow specific rules and guidelines that are predetermined by the female partner, which dictate how he should behave in different situations, from how to address her to how to perform household tasks.

This training allows for quick, efficient, and immediate responses to the commands of the female partner, without any arguments or counterpoints.

The point is to elicit an immediate response to a command that is desired by the female, like “Sit” which instinctively makes a person sit down.

In an FLR, obedience training is a way to establish a power dynamic that is consensual and mutually beneficial for both partners involved.

a female dominant gives a command

Obedience Training is Very Submissive

It’s true that obedience training is a behavior that is inherently submissive.

In an FLR, the male partner is trained to follow the commands of their female partner without question (within consensual boundaries), which requires a significant amount of submission and surrender of power.

However, for those who identify as submissive, obedience training can be a fulfilling and rewarding way to express their submission and feel a sense of purpose in the relationship. The instinctual response to obey can provide a sense of comfort and security, as the submissive partner knows exactly what is expected of them at all times.

While the psychological benefits of obedience training may be more apparent for the submissive partner, it’s important to note that the dominant partner can also benefit from the dynamic created by obedience training.

It allows them to assert their authority and maintain control over the relationship, which can be fulfilling and satisfying for some individuals.

That being said, obedience training is not always necessary in an FLR.

While it can be a useful tool for establishing and maintaining the power dynamic between partners, it is often done purely to demonstrate power and authority, with no real need.

Ultimately, the decision to incorporate obedience training into an FLR should be made consensually by both partners, with an understanding of the potential benefits and drawbacks of the practice.

a female dominant gives a command to kneeling submissive

Finding Balance Beyond Obedience Training

Obedience training can often feel unnatural and create a sense of foolishness.

To find balance in the FLR dynamic, it’s important to focus on obedience training that is more practical and relevant to the dominant partner’s needs.

Rather than training the submissive partner to behave in ways that aren’t useful in the real world, obedience training can be tailored to meet the specific needs and desires of the dominant partner.

That’s key – make the obedience useful.

This could involve training the submissive partner to perform certain tasks or behaviors that are genuinely useful in everyday life, such as cooking, cleaning, or running errands.

When obedience training is focused on practical tasks and behaviors that benefit both partners, it can become an integral part of the FLR dynamic.

It can create a sense of purpose and direction for the submissive partner, while also allowing the dominant partner to assert their authority in a meaningful way.

Finding a balance that works for both partners can help make obedience training a positive aspect of the FLR dynamic.

a CFNM female dominant with her submissive

Some Useful Obedience Training Ideas

One way to make obedience training more effective in an FLR is to focus on practical commands that the dominant partner can use in everyday life.

Here are five examples of useful obedience training ideas:

  • “Be Quiet”: This command can be used to silence the submissive partner when they’re interrupting or talking too much. The dominant partner can use a “Ssshhh” symbol or put a finger to their lips to signal the submissive partner to stop talking until given permission to speak again.
  • “Fetch”: Training the submissive partner to fetch items, such as a glass of water or a book, can be a useful way to assert dominance while also making life easier for the dominant partner.
  • “Kneel”: This command can be used to reinforce the submissive partner’s subservience and obedience. Kneeling can also be a physical display of the submissive partner’s submission, which can be satisfying for the dominant partner.
  • “Undress”: Training the submissive partner to undress on command can be a powerful way for the dominant partner to assert control and dominance over the submissive partner’s body.
  • “Clean”: Training the submissive partner to perform domestic tasks on command can be a practical way for the dominant partner to assert their authority while also making life easier for both partners.

By focusing on practical commands that serve a real purpose, obedience training can become more meaningful and useful for both partners in an FLR dynamic.

a female dominant holds tie of her sub


When it comes to obedience training in a female-led relationship, it’s essential to keep the focus on what the dominant partner really wants from the submissive.

Simply training a partner to obey arbitrary commands that aren’t relevant to the dynamic can feel foolish to both and not serve a practical purpose.

Instead, obedience training should be focused on specific, practical commands that are useful for the dominant partner.

This kind of training can be a powerful tool for reinforcing the power dynamic and building trust and respect between partners.

When done right, it can be a valuable tool for enhancing intimacy and connection in a female-led relationship.

So, if you’re interested in incorporating obedience training into your dynamic, make sure to focus on useful commands that are relevant to your relationship, and always prioritize consent and communication.

Other useful ideas might include:-

  • Wait
  • Leave the room
  • Do ‘X’ now

2 Responses

  1. john a shilston

    it seems the rel. can run very efficiently with flr.

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