For new couples, there’s a hidden obstacle that can hinder progress toward a successful FLR.
This obstacle is a trap that can cause conflicts and damage relationships before they even get off the ground.
However, with the right guidance and awareness, this trap can be avoided, giving couples a better chance of success in their FLR.
In this article, we’ll explore how to avoid this common trap and lay the foundation for a successful female-led relationship.
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Identifying the Hidden Obstacle: A Common Pitfall for New Female Led Relationships
When a new FLR started its often a working out process where a new female dominant tries on her authority and the male is guided by her authority. The female is learning about his submission preferences.
Consequently when she does something that ‘doesn’t sit well’ the temptation by the male is to bring up the point immediately.
Moreover, the female dominant may unknowingly encourage this behavior by engaging in counterpoints and reasoning with the submissive.
This can set a precedent that it’s okay for the submissive to question the mistress, which is not healthy for an FLR dynamic.
This pitfall can lead to arguments from the beginning of the relationship and create mistrust between partners, leading to a breakdown of the FLR.
In the next section, we’ll discuss how to approach these situations in a better way, which can help avoid this problem and lay the groundwork for a successful FLR.
Additionally, the female dominant never gets into a flow and often feels it’s OK to be questioned, which can be problematic to her confidence.
There is a better way.
Working Together: Collaborative Approaches to Avoiding Conflict in an FLR
To avoid conflicts and ensure a successful Female Led Relationship (FLR), it’s important for both the dominant and submissive partners to work together.
This works in combination with both partners to have a weekly meeting where they can openly discuss any issues or “bones of contention.”
What I am saying, simply put, is that it’s better for the male to bring up issues at defined points, like a staged meeting to discuss issues.
This approach allows the submissive to express any unhappiness to the dominant, and the dominant to make adjustments as needed.
Her authoritative flow is unimpeded.
By providing a known outlet for the submissive’s discomfort, this strategy can prevent conflicts from arising in the heat of the moment.
It’s equally important for the dominant partner to be open to feedback and suggestions from the submissive.
This will promote mutual respect and understanding, leading to a healthy and fulfilling FLR.
By working together and taking a collaborative approach to potential conflicts, both partners can contribute to a positive and successful FLR dynamic.
Putting It into Practice: An Example Scenario
Let’s walk through an example, to show you what I mean.
Lena and Mark have been dating for a few months, and they recently decided to explore a Female Led Relationship (FLR).
Lena is naturally dominant, and Mark is eager to submit and please her. During one of their early FLR sessions, Lena asked Mark to wash all the dishes in the sink just before going to bed.
Mark was tired from work, often has to be up early, and didn’t feel like washing the dishes.
He also didn’t want dishwashing to be a regular late night task in their FLR, as he felt it wasn’t good for his work.
However, he remembered their agreement to approach their FLR collaboratively, so he reluctantly did the dishes and brought up his concerns during their weekly meeting a few days later.
At the meeting, Mark told Lena that he didn’t enjoy washing the dishes late at night and didn’t want it to be a regular task that late.
Lena listened carefully and apologized for not considering Mark’s feelings. They both discussed alternatives to dishwashing late night, and together they came up with a compromise that worked for both of them.
This scenario shows that conflicts can arise in any type of relationship, including an FLR.
However, it also shows how communication can help prevent conflicts and foster a healthy and fulfilling FLR.
By working together, Lena and Mark were able to address the issue and find a solution that suited them both.
Unfortunately, conflicts can sometimes arise when the submissive questions the authority of the dominant or when the dominant doesn’t listen to the submissive’s concerns.
To avoid these issues, I recommend taking a collaborative approach to FLR.
This involves the submissive being willing to follow the orders of the dominant, even if they don’t necessarily agree with them.
Any concerns or objections can be brought up during regular meetings with the dominant, where both partners can discuss and address any “bones of contention” that may arise.
This way, the dominant feels she isn’t going to get constant negative feedback, in real-time, yet the submissive still feels he can address a grievance.
The power dynamic flows much better with this approach.
It’s important to remember that the dominant’s authority should be earned and respected, and the submissive’s obedience should be given willingly and without coercion.
Overall, by respecting each other’s boundaries and desires, couples can build a successful FLR that avoids conflicts and allows them to grow together in their respective roles.
Trying to talk to your partner about the benefits of a female led relationship can be hard. Use this open letter to help or to prompt constructive dialogue.