It’s a critical question.
Rules can help to create a sense of stability and order in the relationship, and they can be especially helpful for new female dominants who may be unsure of where to begin.
In this article, we’re going to give you eleven example rules that a new female dominant might consider implementing in her own FLR.
Of course, every couple is different and your own set of rules may look very different from these, but I hope these examples will give you a good starting point.
I’ll also talk about why these rules work and how they can help to create a successful FLR.
So whether you’re just starting out on your FLR journey or you’re a seasoned dominant looking for some new ideas, keep reading to discover how implementing rules can take your relationship to the next level.
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What Are Rules in a Female Led Relationship
When it comes to a Female Led Relationship rules are a big part of the dynamic.
These rules can cover a wide range of behaviors, from the way the submissive speaks and dresses to the tasks he’s required to perform.
Breaking them is to disrespect the mistress and invite punishment.
Now, the rules themselves can vary greatly depending on the personal preferences of the dominant partner.
That being said, it’s always a good idea to write the rules down so that both partners are clear on what’s expected.
For a new Mistress, coming up with rules can be a bit of a challenge, especially if she doesn’t have much experience in FLRs.
It can be tough to know where to start or what kind of rules would be appropriate.
However, the key is to think about what’s important to you as the dominant partner and what behaviors you want to encourage or discourage in your submissive partner.
From there, you can start to develop a set of rules that work for your unique relationship.
Once you have a set of rules in mind, it’s important to communicate them clearly to your submissive partner.
Explain what you expect and what the consequences will be if the rules are not followed.
Keep in mind that the rules are meant to provide structure and stability in the relationship, so they should be designed with the ultimate goal of improving the relationship and making it more fulfilling for both partners.
Rules are a fundamental part of an FLR. They’re guidelines set by the dominant partner to ensure that the submissive partner behaves appropriately and respectfully.
They can be altered and modified to work towards an outcome.
11 Rules to Rule the Roost
It can be tough to know where to start, especially if you’re new to the scene.
But don’t worry, I’m here to help!
I’ve put together a list of 11 rules that you can use as a starting point.
It’s important to remember that these rules are just examples, and you should feel free to modify them to suit your own preferences and the unique dynamics of your relationship.
This list is simply meant to provide guidance and ideas, not a set of rigid requirements.
So take a look at these 11 rules and see what resonates with you.
Use them as a starting point to develop your own set of rules that will help you establish your authority in your FLR and create a fulfilling dynamic for both you and your submissive partner.
Rule 1 – Address the Mistress Correctly
When addressing the Mistress, the submissive must always use the title ‘Mistress’ unless instructed otherwise.
This shows respect for her authority and the power dynamic of their relationship. The full name is to be used not nicknames or slang.
Other acceptable titles may be used, such as ‘Madam’, ‘Ma’am’, or ‘Goddess’, depending on the Mistress’s preference. If the Mistress allows it, her name may be used in public. Failure to address the Mistress properly may result in punishment.
Rule 2 – Never Overspeak the Mistress
When engaging in conversation, the submissive must be attentive and listen carefully to the Mistress. Interrupting or speaking over the Mistress, whether in public or private, is considered disrespectful and will not be tolerated.
Conversation is perfectly OK, but if mistress starts to speak, the submissive must switch to ‘listening mode’
The submissive must remember to whom he is speaking and never overstep their bounds. As a submissive, their role is to serve and obey the Mistress, and failure to adhere to this rule may result in punishment.
Rule 3 – Show Respect in All Actions:
The submissive must always demonstrate respect towards the Mistress, not only in their speech but also in their actions.
They must always be attentive to her needs and desires, anticipating her requests and acting accordingly.
Respectful behavior is essential in all interactions, and any action that shows disrespect, such as neglecting the Mistress’s wishes or ignoring her, will not be tolerated and may result in punishment.
The submissive should always remember that their purpose is to serve and please the Mistress, and showing respect is a vital aspect of their dynamic.
The submissive must comport himself appropriately when in public with the mistress and not denigrate her in any way, cause her to be embarrassed, or otherwise show disrespect. No putdowns that are ‘jokes’.
Rule 4 – Check the App Regularly for Mistress’s Orders
The submissive must make it a habit to check the messaging app used by the mistress and submissive. He must do this every morning when he wakes up, before he leaves work, and before he goes to bed. This is to ensure that he is regularly checking if the mistress requires anything from him.
Failure to do so may result in punishment.
Rule 5 – Anticipate the Mistress’s Demands:
The submissive is expected to anticipate the Mistress’s needs and demands to the best of his ability.
He should make it his priority to understand her preferences, habits, and moods to avoid unnecessary instructions.
The submissive must strive to improve his skills in anticipating the Mistress’s desires and be proactive in fulfilling them. This will demonstrate his commitment to serving the Mistress and enhance the overall dynamic of the relationship.
Rule 6 – Use of Safe Words
The submissive is expected to use safewords during the dynamic.
Green means “ok,” orange means “nearing a limit,” and red means “a red line has been crossed.”
The safewords can also be graded, such as “dark orange.”
If the dominant partner does not hear a safeword, the submissive is expected to continue following orders.
Rule 7 – Public Behavior and Immediate Compliance
The submissive is expected to conduct himself in a manner befitting his position, reflecting the power dynamic of the relationship.
If he hears the phrase “Are you sure, honey?”, he must immediately desist from whatever he is doing and remain silent.
The phrase “whenever you please” in public means that the submissive is to carry out the order immediately without hesitation.
The submissive must always be mindful of his behavior in public and reflect his submissive position accordingly.
Rule 8 – Timeouts
The submissive is expected to follow orders at all times and not bring petty grievances.
If the submissive wishes to discuss something, he can request a timeout, and the Mistress will allot a specific time to address any issues at her convenience.
Relationship dynamics are not for the submissive to bring up arbitrarily.
Rule 9 – Sexual Activity
The submissive is required to refrain from initiating sexual contact without permission from the dominant female.
The submissive must always ask for permission before engaging in any sexual activity, and must never rebuff the female’s requests for sexual contact.
Additionally, the submissive must ask for permission before masturbating and must follow any guidelines or restrictions set by the dominant female regarding sexual activity.
Failure to comply with these rules will result in punishment.
Rule 10 – Permissions
The submissive is largely free to operate unless they are considering things that bring disrespect or are forbidden.
The submissive is however to ask permission before any of the following
- The submissive must ask for permission before using any electronic devices, including computers, phones, and tablets
- The submissive must ask for permission before consuming any unhealthy soda drink
- The submissive must ask for permission to change any aspect of their appearance, such as getting a haircut or dyeing their hair.
Rule 11 – Confess Mistakes
The submissive is expected to be truthful and honest about any mistakes or failures to follow orders, even when the mistress is not present.
If the submissive realizes that they have not followed an order or forgotten one, they are to confess immediately without any hesitation or attempt to cover it up with lies.
Lying to the mistress is an ultimate disrespect and will be dealt with harshly.
A female-led relationship can be a truly amazing experience for both the mistress and the submissive.
To make it work, you need to have a lot of key ingredients but a clear set of rules and boundaries is definitely one of them.
The 11 rules we’ve discussed in this article are just examples that can help a new mistress figure out how to set up her own rules and dynamic with her submissive.
It’s important to remember that every relationship is unique and different, so it’s up to you and your partner to decide what works best for you.
By starting with these rules and adapting them to fit your own relationship, you and your partner can build a strong and satisfying relationship based on what works for you both as a couple.
Trying to talk to your partner about the benefits of a female led relationship can be hard. Use this open letter to help or to prompt constructive dialogue.