The 6 Awesome Secrets Of Male Chastity For Newbie Dommes

With the rise in popularity of female dominated relationships whereby the male relinquishes control of aspects of the partnership in favor of the demands and wishes of his significant other, then there are a lot of newbie dommes assuming their new roles.

Many take to it easily, many are happy to learn along the way, and others have many questions before dipping their toe in the water.

BDSM is an umbrella term, with it meaning pretty much what you desire it to mean, but along with punishments, a lot of new dommes have questions about male chastity.

Male chastity in a femdom relationship, being a common fetish whereby under consent, but under female control, the submissive male has a cage put around his penis which is then locked, the dominant female being called the keyholder.

Ablution functions are still available to the male, but sexual use of his penis is now in the hands of his domme.

A submissive that is ‘caged’ is completely powerless and has to surrender to the wishes of the dominant female keyholder.

So, let’s delve into the successful secrets of this style of dominant play.

Secret 1 – Male Chastity Should Be Dominant Female Focused

Most people assume that the submissive male is the focus of a chastity fetish, but the whole point of the cage is to deny the male a primitive need so his energy can be used to serve the keyholder.

The chastity cage is not the focus of chastity but the device used to make the submissive more attentive to the keyholder’s needs.

The submissive should be caged but the whole point is to keep the focus away from the cage.

The male should not be showing it off or making reference to it but instead, turning his energy towards the female’s needs.

The purpose of the cage is to ignore the penis.

During any physically intimate moments, the submissive is more forced to focus on the sexual pleasure of the domme.

The submissive is denied pleasure to be more attentive.

Male chastity can be used for a rewards based relationship so the submissive may be permitted a few moments released if he has done a consummate job for the domme, even within the folds of domestic servitude.

Secret 2 – Chastity Should Be Realistic And Consensual

Most fantasies revolving around chastity are initiated by the male, who, no doubt, has several ideas on how he wants a female dominant to behave.

Whether it’s dreams of cruel and taunting behavior by a fearsome mistress prone to bouts of spontaneous demands for hedonistic pleasure or anything else, this places an intolerable burden on the female.

The female dominant in a consensual relationship that has her placed atop the power structure, will most unlikely be satisfied if this is a consistent need.

A female dominant is still a female at heart and will want her male submissive as her partner, not a permanent plaything.

The fantasy for many submissive men about being denied pleasure for months is also placing an undue burden on the female partner, and in reality, has to have a level of compromise.

Secret 3 – Chastity Should Focus The Male

Male chastity imposed by a dominant female cannot purely exist in fantasyland.

The keyholder should try to extricate the away from the fantasy and purely concentrate on the submissive’s control.

Attention should be shifted away from the submissive and his desires, so as to laser in on controlling the submissive through being locked in a cage.

Being in chastity is not to be a permanent excuse to be in the male’s favorite fantasy.

Secret 4 – Have Priorities For The Chastised Male

Drawing focus away from the male organ being caged and locked up under the keyholder, the domme should channel away from the pent-up sexual energy so he can more properly serve.

The male should not be allowed to dictate the focus of chastity play.

The expectation of release should be dangled over the submissive’s head so he can properly submit to the desires of the keyholder.

Until he submits to the keyholder’s will then they should remain in chastity.

The chastised male must genuinely submit to the female if he wishes to engage in chastity play – it’s not a fetish for him as much as it is a tool for the domme.

Secret 5 – Male Chastity Should Always Be A Tool For Dommes

While new dominant females moving into a female led relationship are often nervous, there should be no doubt that male chastity should be an available option to control the submissive.

No matter what type of domme the keyholder likes to play, whether it’s more motherly than businesslike, the rules for chastity can be at the dommes fingertips.

It should always be an available option.

Typically male fantasies that revolve around chastity will involve around a keyholder that takes delight in the squirming of her submissive, which places a lot of expectation for the domme.

Women that prefer softer and are more in tune with gentle femdom can also use chastity in their arsenal.

Males that insist upon chastity only when it comes with an expectant attitude from the keyholder are ‘topping from the bottom’.

Keyholders should not enter chastity play if they are expected to take a certain line or attitude towards the submissive.

Male chastity should encompass the personality of the domme, not the submissive.

Whatever the female dominant’s style, they can leverage the pent up energy that chastity provides to their advantage.

Chastity should be used to accomplish whatever pleases the domme.

Secret 6 – Male Chastity Is Not Effeminate

Being a male submissive in chastity is not equatable to being effeminate, crossdressing, or any other type of behavior.

Chastity is a stand-alone submissive act that doesn’t belong under other categories.

A keyholder can place the male in chastity without acknowledging other fetishes or acts of submission.

While it certainly can be a gateway or aid to feminization, it does automatically mean that that is the goal.

Chastity stands alone.

The keyholder should do whatever feels safe, comfortable, empowering for the dynamic without feeling like chastity comes with ‘additional baggage’.