Can A Woman Be In A Femdom Relationship And Be Normal?

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While that question is filled with subjectives it does tap into notions that are relevant when entering any form of female dominated relationship.

Many women associate any form of female dominance with whips, extreme authority, and having to deliberately humiliate or physically harm she actively cares for.

This vision sits uncomfortably with the personalities of many women, who can naturally dismiss the notion of a femdom relationship.

Being the lead in a female led relationship it seems means that the woman has to change herself, so many women actively ask whether a woman can participate in a femdom relationship and be normal?

Women can easily enter into a female led relationship with a partner and retain her personality and appear normal throughout the arrangement. Female led relationships are very personal to the participants

There’s no requirement for a woman participating in a female led relationship to engage in ruthless, vastly authoritarian, or deliberately harmful acts of dominance.

a mistress being pleasured

A female led relationship comes in two parts. The natural authority of the female, and the consensual submission of the male. Within this relationship a woman can feel more empowered, and the male can take satisfaction from his diminished responsibility.

This dynamic does not have to exist purely by force, or any of the extremes normally associated with the practice of BDSM.

In fact, the practice has a name. 

It’s called gentle femdom.

Could Gentle Femdom Be For You?

Gentle femdom means different things to different couples, and that’s the beauty of it. Finding a female dominated relationship that works for you is part of the experience of participating.

a mistress getting her heels kissed

It’s important to realize that gentle femdom isn’t a role reversal. The female dominant does not replace the male in any way. You will not have to step into the role as provider, protector, and dominate physically within the relationship.

Gentle femdom seeks to use the natural strengths of the female. The female steps into the role of controlling the relationship, or at least agreed upon aspects of it, placing limits wherever you both see fit.

The femdom part of gentle femdom obviously means there is a level of dominance to counter the submissive male within the relationship, which can encompass any aspect of BDSM that is preferred.

Most femdom material will show a heartless, callous, and dominant sadist who enjoys the infliction of humiliation, which is OK for some, but absolutely isn’t necessary.

There is another way.

Women can love the empowerment that comes with the more dominant role about things they care about within the partnership. It’s often referred to as a more ‘loving’ or ‘caring’ form of dominance, seeking to use her position to improve her partner.

It can be thought of as perhaps more motherly, with the female taking care of her partner through dominance, the submissive male understanding that his partner is dominant for his own good.

artistic gentle femdom

A gentle femdom dominant may restrict the intake of sugary treats, get tasks performed to improve the submissive lifestyle while indulging in small acts of self serving behaviour to emphasise the dominant position.

Female domination is not purely related to sexual activity. A femdom relationship can see the female take into account her partners wishes, yet ultimately be the decider.

Femdom can be as simple as a discussion about which restaurant to go to with both partners taking a different mood, but the female ultimately getting her partner to take her to her choices. It empowers the female, and satisfies the submissive requirement of the male.

Even punishments can be more gentile, like making your submissive go to bed early to contemplate his behaviour.

Gentle femdom is very much something that you can incorporate into your existing relationship rather than changing it fundamentally.

artistic gentle femdom

It’s more about having a loving demeanor rather than treating the submissive abhorrently.

Gentle femdom is great for breaking into femdom and many stop there and go no further, liking the partnership and enjoying the increased intimacy. Giving the relationship power to the female can actively help enhance marriages and partnerships.

A gentle femdom relationship is about ongoing mutual consent, which can involve any activities that are adhered to by both parties.

The dominant may even place a collar and leash on her submissive while in private in order to enact sexual servitude. The female dominant may prefer this for acts of oral pleasure.

a mistress with a collared sub

Simple instructions like cleaning naked or choosing clothing fall within the purview of the dominant is so agreed.

The key to gentle femdom is largely the dominance of the female naturally agreed upon, without the need to physically harm, alter a relationship, emasculating behavior or otherwise humiliating the husband.

It’s not the ‘be all and end all of the relationship but rather a ‘bolt on’ accessory that works for both partners.

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