A List of Example Lines For a Newbie Mistress

When you are learning, or beginning the position of thinking about dominance, a large part of it might be how you convey your wishes, and demands.

Many women who embark on a female led relationship can turn to this early, but for others it can be a struggle. 

If you’ve just been confronted with the suggestion that you should be a bit more dominant, in any situation, there starts the thought process of actually how you do that.

As poise, and expectant authority play a big part, so does language.

Language conveys not just what you mean, but the expectation of obedience from the point of view of a mistress.

Everything line should be delivered with confidence, but if a newbie mistress has known her partner for a while, then there’s a level of comfortability that might hamper any efforts to sound more authoritative.

With that thought in mind, I’ve put together a list of lines for a newbie mistress to reflect upon when dealing with a submissive, whether familiar or not.

It’s not the request being made but about the language that conveys the authority.

Light Humiliation

Can be used as a reminder of authority or compliance for amusement. There are many reasons, but a mistress may want to lightly humiliate her submissive occasionally.

• I think you should wash up while being naked to make me happy
• These panties will look good on you while at work… make sure I get regular photos
• There’s some grains of rice on the countertop. Don’t come out till you’ve fully counted them
• Now what size but plug would motivate you better

Stronger Humiliation

Stronger humiliation can be used for a submissive for control or amusement. Many submissives like humiliation at the hands of a mistress.

• You need more practice at BJ’s. 
• You will please your mistress by spring cleaning in that french maid outfit today
• You have a full feminized outfit to get into if……
• I think I need a waitress service, go and get into the correct clothing
• Would a slap across the face focus your attention
• Until I tell you otherwise you will ask for permission to use the toilet

Immediate Task Attendance

A mistress sometimes needs to make a task an immediate request

• I don’t need that done now, I need this doing….
• Make sure this is done right now
• It’s important to me that this is done immediately
• My needs are more important than your excuses so…..
• This needs to be done before I get back so……

Dismissive

When a mistress needs to be dismissive to give an indication of disinterest. Sometimes a mistress needs to close down a conversation.

• I have no time for that right now
• If we both speak, which one of us needs to listen more
• This isn’t a concern right now, so …..
• Explain it to me in mail so I can think about it
• Let’s move on now I’ve made my decision
• This is the way I’ve decided you need to do it
• My way or the highway, so ……

Countering Answering Back

Your submissive may either answer back or give you an excuse in order to delay your request. Here’s a list of lines to suggest that you are not in the mood for a discussion.

• Was my tone unclear
• I wasn’t expecting a discussion
• Is there some confusion about what I want
• That sounds like an excuse. Are you making excuses to me
• I really don’t want disappointing on this one, I need ….
• I need solutions over excuses
• I need your action and obedience over…..
• Duly noted, now make sure……
• Only obedience is required here……

Displeasure

When a mistress isn’t happy she can communicate this easily

• You need to get better at anticipating my needs
• Should I make you wear a ‘I am a useless carcass’ sign?
• If you want that collar on to remind you of your position let me know
• Did you mean to say or do that?
• I see I need to make the standards higher
• If you think that’s appropriate we need to talk
• Keep this up and see what happens……

Coaxing

A mistress can often use coaxing language rather than punishment language to get something done. It entirely depends upon the mistress’ personality and the submissive’s behavior.

Positive Coaxing

• If you want some brownie point from mistress ….
• I will think about a little treat if you……
• Some good things heading your way if you…..
• If making me happy is your one true goal….
• I may allow it if you…..
• Should you do it then I would definitely …..
• I can let you touch yourself if you….

Negative Coaxing

• Get this done and I may not punish you quite as harshly next time
• Unless you want grounding I need you to ……
• I will put you in a chastity cage unless you ……..
• If you want to avoid a caning I’d like you to……
• This needs to be done by Monday to avoid……..

Faster or Better Quality

A submissive can quite often not do a thorough or good enough job, or indeed, may procrastinate. 

• Now i know you can do better, shall we have another go
• Do I need to make you do this more often to get the practice
• I’d describe it as substandard, how would you describe it?
• Would you do it that slow if you wanted it for you?
• Should I be satisfied with that, do you think?

Displeasure With Punishment Threat

Ever so occasionally a mistress might want to emphasize what could be done if a submissive doesn’t perform better.

• This could have been done better, clearly you need to 
• Perhaps a small punishment may be a reminder…
• Is this something that 
• We need to get this right to 
• If you want to be treated like a child….
• There’s a line you’re about to cross, and you don’t want to cross it do you?

Punishment

Informing a submissive needs to be done sometimes.

• Go to the punishment corner, until I figure out what to do with you
• Tell me right now what you think you did wrong
• Time for the ‘wee wee’ cage to go on
• Assume the position, and brace yourself
• You understand this is serious, so now…..
• Sometimes a sub only learns through being punished, don’t you agree?

Tease / Kinky

Tease and kink are at the heart of any female led relationship, it can be both fun, and be used as an element for control.

• Would humping a pillow get your mind back on the job
• You look so manly in that bra and panties
• Do I need to CFNM this issue to make it interesting
• Does a foot rub for me sound good to you?
• Does jerking off under supervision sound enticing?
• If you’re a good boy I may let you touch things

General Authority

This is just general comments to remind a submissive of why you are in control.

• At your very earliest opportunity…..
• You want to make me happy right, so……
• Do I need to remind you of the facts here
• Who is the authority here
• What makes you think this is a discussion
• My supervision is required……