When you are learning, or beginning the position of thinking about dominance, a large part of it might be how you convey your wishes, and demands.
Many women who embark on a female led relationship can turn to this early, but for others it can be a struggle.
If you’ve just been confronted with the suggestion that you should be a bit more dominant, in any situation, there starts the thought process of actually how you do that.
As poise, and expectant authority play a big part, so does language.
Language conveys not just what you mean, but the expectation of obedience from the point of view of a mistress.
Everything line should be delivered with confidence, but if a newbie mistress has known her partner for a while, then there’s a level of comfortability that might hamper any efforts to sound more authoritative.
With that thought in mind, I’ve put together a list of lines for a newbie mistress to reflect upon when dealing with a submissive, whether familiar or not.
It’s not the request being made but about the language that conveys the authority.
Can be used as a reminder of authority or compliance for amusement. There are many reasons, but a mistress may want to lightly humiliate her submissive occasionally.
- I think you should wash up while being naked to make me happy
- These panties will look good on you while at work… make sure I get regular photos
- There’s some grains of rice on the countertop. Don’t come out till you’ve fully counted them
- Now what size but plug would motivate you better
Stronger humiliation can be used for a submissive for control or amusement. Many submissives like humiliation at the hands of a mistress.
- You need more practice at BJ’s.
- You will please your mistress by spring cleaning in that french maid outfit today
- You have a full feminized outfit to get into if……
- I think I need a waitress service, go and get into the correct clothing
- Would a slap across the face focus your attention
- Until I tell you otherwise you will ask for permission to use the toilet
Immediate Task Attendance
A mistress sometimes needs to make a task an immediate request
- I don’t need that done now, I need this doing….
- Make sure this is done right now
- It’s important to me that this is done immediately
- My needs are more important than your excuses so…..
- This needs to be done before I get back so……
When a mistress needs to be dismissive to give an indication of disinterest. Sometimes a mistress needs to close down a conversation.
- I have no time for that right now
- If we both speak, which one of us needs to listen more
- This isn’t a concern right now, so …..
- Explain it to me in mail so I can think about it
- Let’s move on now I’ve made my decision
- This is the way I’ve decided you need to do it
- My way or the highway, so ……
Countering Answering Back
Your submissive may either answer back or give you an excuse in order to delay your request. Here’s a list of lines to suggest that you are not in the mood for a discussion.
- Was my tone unclear
- I wasn’t expecting a discussion
- Is there some confusion about what I want
- That sounds like an excuse. Are you making excuses to me
- I really don’t want disappointing on this one, I need ….
- I need solutions over excuses
- I need your action and obedience over…..
- Duly noted, now make sure……
- Only obedience is required here……
When a mistress isn’t happy she can communicate this easily
- You need to get better at anticipating my needs
- Should I make you wear a ‘I am a useless carcass’ sign?
- If you want that collar on to remind you of your position let me know
- Did you mean to say or do that?
- I see I need to make the standards higher
- If you think that’s appropriate we need to talk
- Keep this up and see what happens……
A mistress can often use coaxing language rather than punishment language to get something done. It entirely depends upon the mistress’ personality and the submissive’s behavior.
- If you want some brownie point from mistress ….
- I will think about a little treat if you……
- Some good things heading your way if you…..
- If making me happy is your one true goal….
- I may allow it if you…..
- Should you do it then I would definitely …..
- I can let you touch yourself if you….
- Get this done and I may not punish you quite as harshly next time
- Unless you want grounding I need you to ……
- I will put you in a chastity cage unless you ……..
- If you want to avoid a caning I’d like you to……
- This needs to be done by Monday to avoid……..
Faster or Better Quality
A submissive can quite often not do a thorough or good enough job, or indeed, may procrastinate.
- Now i know you can do better, shall we have another go
- Do I need to make you do this more often to get the practice
- I’d describe it as substandard, how would you describe it?
- Would you do it that slow if you wanted it for you?
- Should I be satisfied with that, do you think?
Displeasure With Punishment Threat
Ever so occasionally a mistress might want to emphasize what could be done if a submissive doesn’t perform better.
- This could have been done better, clearly you need to
- Perhaps a small punishment may be a reminder…
- Is this something that
- We need to get this right to
- If you want to be treated like a child….
- There’s a line you’re about to cross, and you don’t want to cross it do you?
Informing a submissive needs to be done sometimes.
- Go to the punishment corner, until I figure out what to do with you
- Tell me right now what you think you did wrong
- Time for the ‘wee wee’ cage to go on
- Assume the position, and brace yourself
- You understand this is serious, so now…..
- Sometimes a sub only learns through being punished, don’t you agree?
Tease / Kinky
Tease and kink are at the heart of any female led relationship, it can be both fun, and be used as an element for control.
- Would humping a pillow get your mind back on the job
- You look so manly in that bra and panties
- Do I need to CFNM this issue to make it interesting
- Does a foot rub for me sound good to you?
- Does jerking off under supervision sound enticing?
- If you’re a good boy I may let you touch things
This is just general comments to remind a submissive of why you are in control.
- At your very earliest opportunity…..
- You want to make me happy right, so……
- Do I need to remind you of the facts here
- Who is the authority here
- What makes you think this is a discussion
- My supervision is required……