The Mistress Guide To Pussy Worship

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In so many ways mistress’ pussy is different from that of a woman not having power over a male. Not physically of course, but in all other respects.

In any normal relationship a man can ignore or just be bad at going down on a girl, but under a mistress he can either be made to improve, or face the consequences.

In short, pussy worship is a means of kink, fun, control and source of reverence for a male submissive within a female led relationship.

While the submissive men in hardcore female led relationships have little chance of being allowed anywhere near their mistress’ pussy, in the more gentle femdom style of female dominance within a partnership a submissive man could expect to be teased, tutored, humiliated, rewarded or even punished by denying access.

a mistress receiving oral worship from her sub

The one thing he must do is revere it.

Mistress’ pussy is a sacred temple to a submissive male. It is her innermost secret area and treating it with respect would be the norm.

For the submissive man it is a complete honor to be able to worship mistress’ pussy. Being granted access, glimpses, teases, rewards or the ultimate privilege of pleasuring her is ultimate in mistress’ trust.

For a mistress, it is your source of pleasure in your female led relationship.

Your sub can be teased, rewarded, punished by how you use your pussy, as well as so much more. All men at heart are sexual beings and are driven by wanting access. It’s a desire deep within them.

You can use your pussy in so many more ways in a female led relationship than just sex. The practice of worshipping your pussy can be truly edifying and illuminating for both the worshipper, and the worshipped.

a mistress straddles her sub to receive oral

What Is Pussy Worship

Mistress’ pussy is the most intimate area of her body. It’s the temple for the submissive man to honor and respect. A submissive man must simply revere his mistress’ pussy if he is granted even a glimpse of it.

In a normal sense pussy worship could be seen as the poetry devoted to the female genitalia, a celebration that gives life to every human on earth.

But that’s not what we are talking about here.

Neither is the act of self pussy worship as some sort of empowerment tool.

a relaxed mistress receives oral pleasure on couch

Pussy worship within gentle femdom, a female led relationship or any BDSM activity is almost purely physical in nature.

We are talking about the mistress, the keeper of the pussy if you will, derives her authority over her submissive because she has it.  

Mistress’ pussy should inspire devotion, obedience and subservience in her male submissive. As her sexual organ it should produce a desire that can be manipulated, a concentration that inspires utter obedience and complete gratitude on behalf of the sub.

To earn the right to mistress’ pussy is to achieve the highest commendation from mistress, and her authority is derived from it.

Worshipping a pussy for the male submissive whether reciting an ode, kneeling in awe, or ultimately being allowed to pleasure the mistress is a way they can demonstrate their loyalty, devotion, respect and subservience.

The mistress in allowing a submissive to worship her pussy is by way of demonstration exercising her authority over him. Your sub will have natural desires when seeing your pussy, which you can either encourage or dismiss.

a black mistress preparing for her pussy to be worshipped

How mistress wants to have her pussy worshipped is entirely up to her, but commonly it is chanted about, effects a revenant act, or access is granted so the mistress can receive pleasure.

Why As A Mistress Pussy Worship Is Awesome

You may not like the idea of your pussy being worshipped, and that’s perfectly OK. you are the mistress and your wishes, desires and pleasures are prioritized.

Being female, you will of course realize the very physical effect a pussy can have on the male libido.

Males have carnal desires that make them naturally attracted to a pussy. It is the conclusion of their desire. If it wasn’t the human race might have died out long ago.

Your man desires it, you know, he knows it

a mistress receiving oral on a couch

The act of pussy worship can get him to see your pussy in a different light, or at least you can make him see it as such. Normally, for a male a pussy is seen as the end goal to place his penis.

Sure, considerate lovers, or in any normal relationship the man will know that it’s the females pleasure center, and actively want to cause his partner pleasure, so will learn how to perform oral or at least learn hot to stimulate it.

The point is that it’s sexual in nature, at all times for men.

You can not only change that, at least in the female led relationship sense but you can use it effectively to produce a desire that will leave him frustrated, or tease him, or indeed treat it clinically, as in getting him to trim your pubic hair.

It can be a focal point for control, or provide him with stronger motivations should you desire it.

a mistress receiving oral on a sunbed

Final word – As a mistress granting your sub anything from a glimpse to ultimately access of your pussy is the ultimate in acceptance from you. You have allowed him to feel close to you through your most sacred area, and he should be respectful of that approval.

Make Him Maintain Your Pussy

For a mistress, maintaining the look and feel of your pussy is a responsibility. It’s very unusual for men to trim their pubic hair, but for women it is much more common.

Not only for the unsightly public look in a bikini, but when a female wants to receive oral, an excess of pubic hair can be an impediment to that.

As a mistress you may decide that you want your pussy to be immaculate, and well maintained at all times.

a mistress being shaved

The good news is, you have a sub, a male willing to perform your tasks, so why not get him to do it. No more shaving with a mirror in awkward positions, you can get someone who perhaps has better access and control over how you want the look of your pubic hair.

You should obviously start by deciding on your look, whether shaven (brazilian), thin stripped, trimed length, triangle, bikini line or more natural but just maintained.

You can also use your sub and the idea of pussy maintenance to try different looks. Up to you.

Also, make it an event. It shouldn’t be an afterthought. If it isn’t an event it diminishes the nature of your pussy’s importance.

You are a mistress. This is your pussy. Your sub should treat it like a divine allowance, he should not be doing it with minimal attention, or in attire or attitude that reflects thinking of your pussy in a lesser manner.

He needs to respect what he is doing.

a mistress having her pubic hair trimmed

Here’s a list of things you might want to consider. It’s not in any way a recommendation, as frankly it is entirely up to you, but just something for you to consider, and that’s how I offer it.

It might even be a good idea to send him videos you like on how to trim and maintain a pussy as well as pictures of your desired look.

Set a time – Give him a date, and what you need from him. Let him know whether it’s just a trim, just a wash, or you want a different look. This nicely sets up some anticipation for him.

Sub preparation – Prepare his reverence. Ideally he should shower, get his fingernails both cleaned and manicured. He needs to be clean shaven and dressed in clean clothes. He is going near your pussy, and should be respectful of that. The last thing you want is dirty hands and nails that might ‘nick’ you.

Preparation – Make him get the items ready. Thoroughly wash his hands, latex gloves, trimmed fingernail inspection maybe. This is your pussy and he should have all his items ready to complete the task. If he doesn’t it’s sloppy and he isn’t treating his obligation with anything like the reverence he should do. Make sure he cleans all the tools.

a mistress forcing a slave to give her oral

Trim – Make him lightly brush your pubic hair to remove the loose hairs, and then scissor trim to get rid of much of the excess hair growth. Trim down to about a quarter of an inch to anywhere where you want skin showing so the razor or trimmer has room to work properly.

Wash and dry – He needs to make the skin around your pussy clean to avoid the possibility of bacterial infections and should clean the area thoroughly. Probably helps if you are near the bath for this but the skin should be soft and clean. Then dry so the hairs are not clogged together. Make sure he uses the finest sponges.

Exfoliate – Not overly necessary but if you feel like it, get your sub to loofah the area to remove any dead skin cells. If you want a razor shave then the skin will be slightly smoother.

Lathering up – Proper lathering up with the finest gels or creams keeps the skin moist around the shaving area which avoids any razor nicks.

a mistress having her pubic hair latherd up

Landscape and shave – Your sub should with very deliberate strokes carefully remove the unwanted hair where necessary. He should be mindful of your desired look and make sure it’s as close as he can achieve.

Wash and dry again – The area should be washed to remove any remaining gel / cream then dried so putting on underwear is not problematic.

Inspection – He should then have a mirror to let you inspect the result. You can then approve his pussy trimming or make further requests.

TIP – Mistress should remain aloof, and keep her pussy maintenance non sexual. It can cause enormous frustration in your sub. His act of maintaining your pussy makes his libido rise, but which you should treat with indifference. Feel free to look nonchalant sometimes, like he is just there to serve you, … try reading a magazine.

a mistress receiving oral on a kitchen countertop

How To Control Your Sub With Your Pussy

As a mistress you have natural authority anyway, therefore the issue of control should never be questioned. So why would your pussy be needed in keeping his obedience.

In essence it doesn’t. It doesn’t give you any extra ammunition. 

What it does though is make the ammunition you have a lot more effective. It can inspire a very physical reaction, rather than just mental.

Quite simply it can make any other instruction, humiliation, punishment or tease way more effective.

A few ideas;

a mistress receiving oral on a leather couch

Tease – Teasing with your pussy can either be verbal, suggestive or physical. Physical is obvious, but you can really tease him with suggestive comments, or verbally promising something.

Or maybe even photos of you wearing underwear and suggestive text messages.

Think about making them conditional on something, like extra good behavior this week, or the completion of a large task.

Maybe getting you a coffee isn’t a satisfactorily large enough task to warrant giving you oral but a huge task you might suggest access upon satisfactory completion to a high standard.

Casually suggesting that “this pussy doesn’t lick itself” while he is hard at work can produce a harder worker, or certainly one that is more motivated than usual.

a mistress receiving oral on a bedroom shelf

Ode – What can be quite fun for a mistress is to make your sub recite an ode when a condition is met. Maybe just kneeling in front of you when you are in your underwear, or are dressed elegantly, or as the occasional nighttime ritual. Make him get on his knees and recite a few lines as a homage to your pussy, and his obligation to obey the owner of it. A fun kink maybe.

Carnal pleasures – As the pussy contains the clitoris and it’s your pleasure center, then your sub should appreciate the significance of you allowing them access to it to pleasure you. When given the chance to pleasure you via giving you oral, your sub can become very compliant, almost like a child.

You can use this to get any awkward or tasks done either more immediately or done to a much better standard.

Rewards – Using your pussy in relation to rewards can produce a way more compliant sub. You can suggest possible rewards if the job is done to a very high standard, or by a certain time. He is way more likely to obey your preferences rather than just your request if you promise he can give you oral.

Additionally you do it as a reward for a task well completed. Not a basic chore but something more subjective. ‘Find out about where that girl got that outfit and shoes and I will let you give me oral tonight’ .. that sort of thing, but maybe something more to your appropriate desires.

a mistress receives oral pleasure on edge of couch

I’m sure as a female you know this, but use it to get a little bit more of what you want. Taunt him with it.

You really can have a fun kink with this one if you feel like it, by offering smells, one licks or just gazing upon it. Your sub will be in raptures no matter what. Just make sure you have fun.

Punishments – My complete contrast, by denying access to your pussy you can induce great consternation and regret. By threatening to withdraw it, you can ensure great compliance, or make them overcome a small objection, maybe even a humiliation.

Maybe you want to have fun, and your sub doesn’t like feminization. There may be great reluctance, but by insinuating that they will have zero access to your pussy it can motivate like crazy.

a mistress receives oral pleasure on bed

Withdrawing access is a great punishment anyway, and entirely within your right, but even small vetoes can have a significant effect.

Humiliation – You can also use your pussy as a source of great humiliation for him. Your sub will want to be the one who gives you pleasure, so denying him that will make him feel unwanted, or undeserving.

If he is grounded for what you consider a serious offence you can make him watch you masturbate, telling him that you would have preferred his touch but that wasn’t possible during his grounding.

Alternatively, you could think about getting one of those face dildos, and pleasuring yourself on that.

Think of anything you like, but the idea is that it is very emasculating for your sub.

a mistress receives oral pleasure on bed with facesitting

Teach Him The Way You Like To Receive Oral

While there are literally hundreds of articles about improving a subs oral skills, it’d be true to say that a lot of men get their ideas from watching porn movies, rather than instructional videos. So from a mistress point of view, does your sub need his skills improving?

Why not take him back to basics with some skills lessons, more specifically tailored to you.

Build up – Tell him everything you like concerned with the build that excites you. How to build up, where to kiss and stimulate. Tell him the speed and the duration you expect to see on the build up phase.

Perhaps don’t let him go further till he’s mastered the art of building you up.

If you like any language, whether pleasing or dirty, tell him what style of phrases you want to hear,

a mistress receives oral pleasure on bed with facesitting

Your responses – Tell him your responses and what he is to look out for to go towards the vagina.

You know what you do when the anticipation builds, like body language, noises you make, whether you spread your legs a little wider but tell him those are clues for him.

You expect him to look out for them.

Tell him exactly how you want it done.

Oral stimulation – Direct him how you like it performed. How he should start, where he should lick, how hard, and how long.

Tell him when he must move to your most sensitive part, the clitoris, 

a mistress receives oral pleasure on couch with facesitting

Fingers? – If you like fingers inserted then let him know when it’s OK to insert them, how lubed up they must be and the action he must make, most likely the come hither movement.

Just make sure his fingernails are well manicured, and inspect prior if necessary.

Final stimulation – Make him aware of the signals that he should be sending. He needs to alter anything and everything to make sure you are pleased better.

Tell him if you are feeling that he is sounding like he is doing it out of obligation, and that he needs to sound more enthusiastic. Tell him that is an area he needs to shape up if you feel like it.

Keep going until you get him perfected in the art of pleasuring you.

Some final thoughts;

a relaxed mistress receives oral pleasure on couch

Dirty talk – If you like it tell him to practice it. Get him to find some good lines and learn how to do it. His feeling uncomfortable is irrelevant, you want it and he needs to make sure it’s a tool in his arsenal.

Be direct – Don’t beat about the bush. Tell him what you desire and how you desire it. Start by issuing very direct instructions like “This is your mistress’ pussy. I get what I desire and you obey my every word. Do you understand?”

As he is licking away you can still be formal and direct, it sounds much more mistress like. Feel free to take an instructional tone with ….”go on, get in there, lick it and taste my juices” as well as issuing commands like “you love my taste don’t you…. Tell me how good I taste?”.

Or

“You’re licking like a wimp, get your tongue in there”

Tease, tease, tease – There is never a bad time to tease. Anything from at the beginning of being worshiped and standing with your pussy near his kneelinging frame with .. .”You want this don’t you?” and “You love to see me get wet don’t you?” to mid way through with “Get your fingers in there, make me come like I deserve to”

a mistress receives oral pleasure on edge of the bed with facesitting

He will love your instructional banter, as it is very submissive on his part.

It also keeps excitement levels high.

Be Selfish With Your Pussy Pleasures

Oddly he will actually really adore this.

There is something very sexually alluring about a strong, confident dominant female aggressive in the pursuit of her own pleasures.

His tiredness, awkwardness, or aching tongue is almost none of your concern, purely his performance and getting the pleasure you desire.

It’s a very submissive act for a man, to be instructed on how to perform, and a mistress that is only interested in her own orgasm. Don’t discount the power of this. 

Spontaneously, whenever you desire it, you can demand a pussy licking until you come, without any thought towards returning the favor.

a mistress receives oral pleasure on edge of the bed with facesitting

Trust me, he will love this as well.

You can use your aggressive pursuit of your own orgasm, to humiliate a little your sub, by demanding an action or telling them exactly what to do. Lick higher . … lick harder …….

Grab his head if you need and direct him aggressively.

By controlling his actions to do exactly what you require rather than letting him explore, you are making sure you get your pussy worshiped in exactly the correct manner for you.

After orgasms, you can still tell him to get in there, smell it, and get him to tell you how good it smells.

Referring to your sub as a ‘pussy slave’ during the experience can also emphasize your points and authority.

a mistress receives oral pleasure on edge of the bed with facesitting

TIP – DO NOT think of it as if it has to be an equal exchange. He’s pleasured you, and that’s his job – don’t think you have to return the favor. In fact, feel free after you have been satisfied to tell him to jerk off in the toilet.

Get Him To TRULY Worship Your Pussy

This is more a fun, kinky thing to do rather than anything practical that will improve his skills, but again, it does keep his mind focused on the act of pussy worship.

Try getting him to construct a small poem or ode about your pussy, or write one yourself if you feel like it.

Get him to learn the words. By heart, … without any prompting.

a topless mistress standing over a sub with collar

Get him to recite it whenever you want, or after you have had a shower, get him to kneel in front of your pussy and recite the ode.

Or make it a prayer before bed for the next day if it amuses you.

Try getting him to video him reciting it, even at work and send it to you if you feel like it.

By having an ode and his memorization of it, it again focuses his mind on worshipping your pussy.

Get Him Reading About Cunnilingus

To keep his mind on things, get him to read an absolute plethora of articles, books, instructional tombs and watch as many videos as you can find and instruct him to watch.

Get him to tell you what he learned from each one.

Keep his education in the art of pleasing you orally a constant thing.

a mistress forces her sub to give oral

There are literally hundreds of words written on the subject, so why shouldn’t he become familiar with as many different opinions as possible.

Another good option is to purchase one of those fake vaginas that are very realistic. Make him practice on it in front of you for a bit of added fun.

Think of pussy worship as a constant thing for him, that he needs to embrace and keep on top of current thinking.

In essence just keep him occupied with thinking about how to please you with his tongue.

Conclusion

There is no trade off with pussy worship.

You are his mistress and have the pussy that commands him, drives him, and he must worship it at all costs.

Done right, the act of pussy worship can be everything you need it to be.

A method of control, a tease, a reward, a punishment, humiliation and method of receiving extreme pleasure for a mistress.

a mistress receiving oral worship from her sub

Pussy worship is a wonderful and pleasurable tool for your armory of dominance.

The more you practice the sacred art the more you will get out of it. There’s no need to start with everything, feel free to tell your sub you want a pussy slave and will figure out how best to go about it, and then go at your own pace and comfort.

In a female led relationship or any couple into gentle femdom pussy worship on a regular basis can form amazing bonds and connections between the sexes, and adds a new dimension to your sex life.

The pussy is not something to be embarrassed about, hidden away or shameful of. A mistress has every right to be proud of her pussy and the effect it can have.

She has every right to ask for her sub to worship it, in any manner that pleases her.

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